Welcome from Oklahoma, Tomas! We're glad you've joined us and hope you'll stop by the Introductions forum and tell us more about the two of you.
The committment is important to us but not the marriage certificate. We can't tell you why couples don't want to play after finding out y'all aren't legally married, but my guess is somebody will do that soon.
This is a great place to learn about the lifestyle so stick around and get aquainted.
Alura