I think non-swingers just define cheating as "having sex with someone other than your spouse" while swingers know that cheating is "having sex with someone other than your spouse without your spouse's knowledge or approval."
The difference being that swingers know that the anguish that comes from being cheated on is not caused by the sex itself, but the lying, sneaking around, loss of trust and feelings of betrayal that come from DISCOVERING your spouse has been having sex behind your back. Unfortunately our society views sex with such a mixture of fear and reverence that I don't think we will ever see sex accepted as what it is or could be: physical enjoyment and not a dirty act or a holy sacrament. |