 Re: I am SO confused!!!
Hey Sweetness4u42. We wouldn't think you are crazy for what you want. We look for the same things. Since we've been in the lifestyle we have had some encounters with couples that were just one-night stands, but we put ourselves in those positions - like at a house party.
But we look to, and prefer to have, some kind of connection with others besides just sex. Just sex can be good, but Mrs. WS and I feel that it is better when we really like the people, not just be physically attracted to them. They say most of sexual excitement is in the mind, and we believe it is true. People can be very attractive to us sexually, but if they don't turn us on through conversation and personality we really don't look to carry the relationship further. Not saying it hasn't happened in the heat of the moment, but it is the exception, not the norm for us.
We have developed several close relationships with couples through swinging that we would continue even if the sex stopped. The friendships work because we are very similar in education levels, personalities, and outlook on life. The same reasons you become friends with anybody, vanilla or swingers. It's the friendship that makes encounter with them better for us (and we hope for them too) because we are more comfortable with each other.
So keep looking. You are not asking for anything strange or out of the ordinary from swinging. Many people think the same way you do.
Mr. WS
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