[Dynamar]

My opinion is that your profile just comes across as very, very serious. I'm certainly not saying that you shouldn't be serious about your wishes, your needs, your desires, your boundaries, your communication and commitment as a couple.

But let's just say that you send me an email, and I look at your profile... I get way too much of a "commitment" vibe from the way your profile is written. Meaning it sounds like you may want much more of a commitment than I am looking for.

I swing because I enjoy sex as a recreational activity, it's fun, and I meet great, fascinating people. Do some of them become friends? Of course. Some are friends I talk to/chat with more than once a week, even every couple of days. Many of these I play with on a fairly regular basis, and some of them I see in social situations that don't involve playtime. Others are like good acquaintances, that I like a lot and feel warmly about, and we might see each other on an occasional basis.

The problem, in my view, of becoming too close friends-wise with people, is what if once you know them better and play with them, you don't want to have sex with them again? How do you tell your now good friends that you don't want them as play partners any more? And what might that do to your friendship?

However, if you establish early on that there is chemistry and an initial desire to play with them (since that's the ultimate goal anyway, isn't it?)... I agree with other posters... play with them. If it doesn't work out, it's a lot easier for everyone to walk away without higher expectations or hurt feelings.

Bottom line?... for me it's the "fun factor." You're obviously intelligent, articulate and high functioning people. It's just that you don't come across, to me... at least in your profile, as being very much fun.

Am I suggesting you lower your standards, or do things you don't want to do? Heavens, no! But you asked for opinions... and yeah, I know what they say about opinions...

Do wish you the best, though.