The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Why is it wrong to want friendship before sex?

LikeMinds321 · 07-10-2005, 09:05 PM

Hello Sweetness and Welcome to the Swingers Board.

You should feel comfortable with people before having sex with them. It's not unusual to want to get to know people. Some people can determine if they are ready to swing within a few hours of meeting, others need more time.

I've read your profile and the message it sends me is that you're looking for a couple to "marry" more than play with. It's as if you are searching for a permanent play couple for the rest of your life. Most swingers aren't looking for such a committment. Your profile also gave me the impression that you are in greater need of a girlfriend than swing partners. If others are getting the same feeling, it might explain why you're not receiving the response you had hoped for.

How many meets do you want with a couple before having sex with them?

If you can make a decision about swinging with people by the second date, then you're pretty normal swingers I'd say. If you're looking for three or more meets before you are ready, you'll likely have a tough time finding swingers through ad sites.

LM

07-10-2005, 09:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 I'll think about it Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 10,099 Location: With Wild Things Status: Married Female	Re: I am SO confused!!! Hello Sweetness and Welcome to the Swingers Board. You should feel comfortable with people before having sex with them. It's not unusual to want to get to know people. Some people can determine if they are ready to swing within a few hours of meeting, others need more time. I've read your profile and the message it sends me is that you're looking for a couple to "marry" more than play with. It's as if you are searching for a permanent play couple for the rest of your life. Most swingers aren't looking for such a committment. Your profile also gave me the impression that you are in greater need of a girlfriend than swing partners. If others are getting the same feeling, it might explain why you're not receiving the response you had hoped for. How many meets do you want with a couple before having sex with them? If you can make a decision about swinging with people by the second date, then you're pretty normal swingers I'd say. If you're looking for three or more meets before you are ready, you'll likely have a tough time finding swingers through ad sites. LM