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My husband and I are fairly new at the swinging scene... We have an ad on Swing Lifestyle, that is a very long profile, telling what we want, don't want, etc.... While we have met with a few couples from there, it seems that it does not work out because I insist on some kind of friendship/relationship with the couple FIRST before any sexual activity takes place. I am not comfortable with just jumping in and fucking someone just because everyone else is doing it. My husband says that I am looking for more of a Poly relationship, and after reading a lot of the Poly threads that he printed out for me, that is NOT what I want. I love him and only have enough room in my heart to love him.... But I guess my main confusion comes from why is it wrong for me to want to have friendships outside the bedroom.. like dining, theater, dancing, and not always expect to have to sleep with someone....??? Can someone please enlighten me on this.. what am I doing wrong??? Am I scaring away potetntial playmates by wanting something other than sex?
I know that in a swinging sityation, you check your emotions at the door, you have your fun, and you go home and reconnect with your mate.. that I do understand.. but I would also like to have a few select friends with whom we can do things aside from sex once in awhile....
I am prepared to be flamed and get negative responses, but I am just curious.. our profile on Swing Lifestyle is SensualOnes1994 Take a look and tell me please what to change...
Any help will be very appreciated!!!
Sweetness