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Originally posted by michigancouple:
Now, I am not saying that I would have if it were not for the swinging relationship, but I am not the most strong willed person in the universe as many of us aren't.
This lifestyle has caused us to communicate with such profound depth that I would live in horrible guilt if I ever did anything that violated the trust my wife and I have earned.
That is a lot more than many people that scorn swinging yet cheat on there S/O's can say. Just my thoughts for the day.
This in no way implies that swingers are better than non swingers. I do feel though that we have a higher sense of morality and humble conciences than cheaters.....John.[/QB]
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toMICHIGANCOUPLE
Do we swingers have a higher sense of morality? I'm not so sure. We do have the good fortune of having a spouse to explore the lifestyle with. What would many of us do if the spouse had no interest in swinging? With all the visual sexual images we have thrown at us each day I think it would take a saint to commit too a non-cheating long term relationship.Should the couple split if they get the urge for infidelity?
Its easy to sit back and judge as a swinging couple. My wife and I were married many years before the topic of swinging came up.
I was unfaithful in the early years of our marriage and was too young to understand how hurtful that was.After realizing how hurtful I had been I made the decision that it would never happen again.Many years later we decided to try swinging. Spouses who have always been upfront with their partner will have no idea what we went through discussing swinging as all the old "cheating" issues arose. Fortunately we got through these issues and are having fun exploring. I guess I feel lucky now not necesssary someone with a higher morality. I not sure if she had said no to the swinging if I could have long term kept to my no cheating pledge.