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Originally Posted by intuition897 After re-reading this post, I realized that I'm making it sound like we try to suck all the joy out of sex. |
I don't think so at all, intuition. In fact your post is very on mark, as long as someone is in the lifestyle and therefore understands. I think it is a hard concept for vanillas to understand.
It's just my opinion, but one formed over 40 years and one failed marriage, that many confuse love and sex, or more to the point, confuse being horny for love. Many people, younger ones in particular, confuse being horny for someone with being in love with that someone, get married, and when the novelty of the sex wears off they're left with someone they really don't have allot in common with, or don't get along with outside the bedroom.
For us, swinging has very clearly defined the reasons we love each other. As you said so well, it has rendered sex impotent in its ability to dictate the success or failure of our relationship (I need to write that one down!).
Thanks for the great explanation.
Mr. WS