Thanks for sharing your 3some experience with us! Erotic fantasies come true...Wow!
Before we were involved in the lifestyle, I remember when my hubby first shared his FMF 3some fantasy with me, automatically my thoughts went into "defense mode"! OMG! How COULD he even THINK such a thing?!!
Sheessshh, now that I think about it...*lol*
The levels of processing for me was this...
1) First came the initial SHOCK! "Am I hearing what I THINK I'm hearing?! How COULD he..."
2) Then the "quiet" period. Some call it the "silent treatment", but what we're REALLY doing is "analyzing the situation". REALLY.
*lol*
3) And then we analyze this even more. And for those of you who are even more analytical than some, this process takes even longer. So PATIENCE grasshoppers, patience...
4) By this time, given the patience we need to come to our own comfort zones of excepting this, or not...We either except it, and fantasize other sexual erotic pleasures that was stimulated by this in the FIRST place! Or we NOT except it, and just say no. BUT, maybe we're just not ready to except it yet, and we need to go back to step #3.
5) FINALLY, we share our thoughts. Whether it be MORE fantasies, rules, comforts zones, etc...We're almost there! But this level of "processing" takes lots of time and patience! Obviously, right? HHHhhmmm....*LOL*
And the moral of this IS...*lol* Communicate with openness, sharing truthfully & honestly, with compassion & respect of each others feelings, sharing the newness of the idea, and doing whatever it is that the both of you do best in comforting each other and consoling together...
Going through the levels of process together with patience and communicating openly, your relationship is strengthened, making the bond between husband & wife MUCH stronger, before taking any further steps into making both your fantasies come true. And even THAT, is a fantasy come true all in itself, stronger relationships!
Good luck & keep us posted!
Cyber
Wife