[corkwan]

just a thought, but have you considered the performance anxiety aspect?

i know that my cock will range in size depending on how excited i am. i would say there is at least a 2-3" range in length, and probably the same in girth. these small penises you encounted, how stiff were they? part of the problem could be the guy is nervous, and worse than that, sees how big your partner is and feels inadequate. all of this makes the penis do a turtle.

as much as women go on about making sure they have enough foreplay, the same goes for men. they need to be stoked up, reassured that a woman wants them, and that they feel comfortable in the situation. any looks, of, 'oh my god, is that it' are sure to induce turtle like behaviour.

anyway, if size really is the most important thing to you, then i'd say the other people are right in that you should be very explict about that in your profile.