[soniadan]

We've been at vanilla parties that get pretty wild too. They just don't call it "swinging" when the chicks start making out with each other on the dance floor.
It's hard to say what to do or not do. Certainly depends on how open minded your vanilla friends are. We know vanilla couples that go to strip bars together but don't actively search out other people to have sex with.

In our experience, most people are curious about this lifestyle but are so bound by morals/ethics/the way they were brought up that they'll never even bother to give it a try.

Seperate is a good idea unless you know for sure your vanilla friends are cool with it.

-S