[WesternSwing]

I don't think your fantasy is uncommon, however it poses several risks. First of course is the pregnancy you mention. The best method is the pill or the patch. There are diaphrams and IUD's and others, but I understand their effectiveness isn't as good as the pill or patch.

The last thing you want it to bring another man's child into the world in your relationship. I would think this would not only weigh heavy on the marriage itself over time, but it would be really unfair to the child. If you never told the child you'd be lying your whole life, and if you did, what you you say? "Well, it's like this. Mom had sex with four guys at once and you were the result. We don't really know who your daddy is."

Then there is the disease factor. With just herpes they say that 40% of adults have it. Four guys, good chance two are gonna have it. And not one is gonna admit to it when he thinks he's gonna be in on a gang bang of your wife (or any other STD for that matter).

You're better-off using condoms and playing it safe. For your wife and for yourself.

Mr. WS