 Re: What is Cheating When You're a Swinger?
Cheating is not telling your partner beforehand and not getting concurrence.
In saying that I had a bi relationship (my first) with a friend of ours when Joe was traveling. I was fairly certain that when I went to Linda's apartment that "something" was going to happen. I suspected that she and her husband were swingers, because of the art work in their apartment.
he experience was wonderful, but I felt really guilty and was very worried about Joe's reaction. I had cheated. Linda told me that Joe would be OK with it.
I told Joe three days later when he returned home. I could not bear to tell him over the telephone. I was very nervous about the whole affair. I made Joe a large martini before I told him. (I had several glasses of wine.) Joe took it stride. Later Linda and Tony introduced us to swinging. Joe admitted that he probably would not have been so accepting if I had fucked Tony instead of Linda.
Although Joe was accepting and we now swing I still feel that I cheated and I broke trust even if everything turned out OK.
Wanda |