[knkyPAcpl]

I was wondering if I would see this topic here. I just joined the board today. My wife and I have been swinging for 8 years and have had alot of wonerful experiences together. We originally got into the lifesyle during conversation of being with other peole, a conversation that ultimately led to her admission of infidelity. My initial reaction was the normal and expected one but after alot of soul seaching and her telling me that it only strengthened her love for me, I came to the decision that swinging would be good for us. During all the talking about how and who and where and why I made it clear that if I were to find out that she had done anything else behind my back I would divorce her. I had never considered doing it myself so I expected the same consideration. After 15 years of marriage and the 8 spent swinging I found out that she had. Unfortunately the person who told me was the woman we have been living with for the past year. I was sworn to secrecy, not to tell my wife how I found out. So my knowledge was based largely on suspicion based on an email I found among other things, but no concrete evidence. She completely denies actually doing anything, not knowing that I actually do know. She claims the thought was there, plans were made but nothing actually happened. I can't betray the trust shown in me by the person who told me as it would ruin the friendship she has with my wife.
I'm not really asking whether I'm doing the right thing, just other people's opinion
thanks