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Originally posted by CuteCouple:
I guess, I'm just a big advocate for safe sex for all. That means gays, lesbians, straight men, women, swingers... everyone. Maybe it's my age, I don't know, but in my generation, safe sex is promoted very strongly in college and HS so it has been thorouly beaten into my head. |
You may have a very valid point on why you look at things differently than the rest of us. Most swingers are older and still come from the time before AIDS was as big of a deal as it is, and because of that still have the "it won't happen to me mentality". I'm sure as well that your boyfriends closeness to the issue affects his decisions just as it would anyone else's.
Granted AIDS is probably the greatest worry for any of us, but keep in mind of course that when it comes to STD's there are several that can be spread by something as simple as kissing (herpes being one of them). Along with practicing safe sex (which we all should do and I strongly advocate on this site - although probably not as strongly as you would personally like), we also should all be a little choosy on who we swing with.
Point in case - When I was in Vegas I attended a swinger party at the home of some swingers that I know. I was QUITE surprised by what I saw take place. I realize that some of these people know each other, but I also KNEW that most did not as they were there (like myself) for the weekend. We were playing a game where several guys were blindfolded and hands tied and several girls were being "naughty" to them and at the end the guys were to guess which girl was which.. one of the girls in the game climbed on each guy bareback (no condom) and fucked him. My jaw wasn't the only one that dropped. That seemed to be the common thing at the party.. something I personally didn't hold to and luckily I had brought my own condoms to use, even so I wasn't very active at that party as I might have been if condoms were the rule of the day.
Just remember it's just as important to know where your partner has been as it is to make sure they use a condom.
Julie
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