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Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty Okay,
Here is my take on this....
(I am going to buck conventional wisdom here...a little)
If we were meeting local (meaning close to home) we definately would not have waited that long, but....
If you both traveled at least an hour to meet I would probably have given him a little more time. You are already there, you paid for the room, and he kept calling to say he was 10 minutes out...5 minutes out...2 minutes out. |
Trouble with waiting for him was...wait
where? The lounge was closing in 15 minutes. We had hoped to chat for a while and by 11 we'd know whether we were turning in for the night or if we'd invite him up with us. He just left us in a very awkward spot. We were not going to go out scouting for another decent bar to visit at; we had to leave early the next morning, so unless we were all going to be involved in some actual playtime, we didn't want to be up too late just chatting.
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Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty It is possible he wasn't coming at all and was trying to see how long he could string you along, but with the last call saying he was 2 minutes out...I would have waited, more out of curiosity than anything else.
Any Play would have been unlikely at this point but a face to face meeting to see if he was for real and to judge the sincerity of his excuse would have been in order, for us anyway. |
Oh, I'm sure he was there. He was pretty ticked off. Then again so were we. The fact that he kept calling with updates didn't really make us feel warm and fuzzy or anything. We just felt like he was stringing us along. Bottom line, we felt manipulated.
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Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty Sometimes shit happens and things fall behind. Maybe he was really stuck in traffic or maybe he was at the soccer game. It could have ran late, beyond his control. I don't think he could just walk off the field, maybe he told a little white lie to avoid making you think the soccer game was more important. |
If that's the case, then yeah, we do feel a little bad about it. But one of the hazards of playing in the lifestyle is dealing with suspicion and we're no exception. In order to keep from being taken advantage of, we all protect ourselves to some degree by remaining skeptical and taking what others say with a grain of salt. We do, others do it, and if you think about, you've all likely done it yourselves. We don't like it. We wish there was some way for everyone to just know the truth, but there isn't. So we have to determine whether people are actually telling us the truth or not. It's sad but true. We would've appreciated his honesty more.
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Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty If he took the time to actualy show up, albeit late, I would have stuck around another 10 minutes after the 2 minute warning.
We would give him the chance to "make up" for being late and make him earn his way back to some play time.
If his being late was an actual trait of his arrogance it would show through in his personality once you met.
So bottom line for us,
We PROBABLY would have waited. Mainly for 2 reasons:
1)He ALSO traveled to meet.
2) He was calling every few minutes to update you. |
We wanted to avoid making a scene, so we left before he showed up. Someone in the hotel actually called 911 and there were police crawling all over the place trying to figure who it was that called. If they were looking for something to do, we sure as hell didn't want to volunteer. Maybe we should've waited...but we didn't. I doubt we'll drive up there to meet him again. If he happens to be in the Kingston area sometime and asks to meet, we'd probably give him another chance, but otherwise, it's unlikely.
Thanks for your input Naughties! *Sigh* why aren't things ever simple?