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Originally posted by CanadianCouple:
Different scenario regarding the spread of disease. You see, that gay guy getting a hummer likely had it inside someone's anus at one time, and we all know anal carries the highest risk for infection through sex. Which is why my wife and I won't swing with any man who describes himself as bi or bi-curious.
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I see a double standard here myself.. and maybe you just weren't as clear here as you meant to be. Yes there is a higher risk of AIDs in the gay population and therefore swinging with a bi guy (who has most likely been swinging in the gay community as well) would definatly increase your risk. I don't see how you can narrow that down to anal sex.
What you said in your post is
anal carries the highest risk for infection.
I think that if a gay guy chooses to give a blowjob without protection then that is his choice and the choice of the person he is blowing.
CuteCouple, no one here is condeming you for your choice to have safe sex at all times. That is your choice, just as choosing not to have safe sex at all may be the choice of others in the lifestyle. That doesn't mean that I'm going to swing without comdoms or that I'm going to start using dental dams. So to your question of why some people choose to have unsafe sex? It's a risk they choose to take. Each person/couple when entering this lifestyle has to look at it and decide if they want to take the risks involved (both those in regards to sex and those not), and if so which risks they are willing to take. I would say that most people just continue in swinging (in regards to safe sex) as they were before they started swinging. You said that your boyfriend had never had unprotected sex (I'm assuming you meant oral as well), so you continue in that way. Many people use condoms for oral and they continue in that way, and many people have never used a condom for oral and they continue in that way. Yes they are taking a risk, but that's the choice they make.
You keep saying that everyone here is jumping on you about what is "common in swinging", no one is jumping on you. The mentions of "unsafe" oral sex being common is just people here letting you know what to expect in this lifestyle, not them condeming you for doing something that is'nt so common.
Julie
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