Cyberwife-thank you for your words. It's nice to know that someone appreciates and respects our opinions and desires. I will most definately be communicating my "idea" of safe sex beforehand to avoid any future disasters.
CanadianCouple-Chip on Shoulder? Why are you people telling me not to judge you, when you are judging me? I said in my last post, how you guys have sex is your choice. You are still pounding me over the head with what's "widely interpreted" in swing scene as safe sex! Sounds like a double standard. That is fine, but it's not the way I will play, no matter how many times I hear the term "widely interpreted". I already said, to avoid any mishaps or confusions, before I have any other involvements I will spell it out in CAPS before I meet anyone!
As for getting opinions fine, that's wonderful and I have said that I am going to take the advice I did get but nobody bothered to see that. Seems funny how you don't even want to listen to other opinions other than your own and what is "widely interpreted" and the second someone comes here and says something different it's not a supportive community, it's a putdown hayday of the people who prefer to practice safe sex! What a joke this is!
If something didn't "set well with me" I wouldn't run away, I'm honest enough to say it upfront. If she was uncomfortable with anything she could have said something, my bf still wouldn't have had oral with her without protection, but maybe the situation could have been different. I would never just get up, get dressed, and leave without trying to resolve something! I'm a big believer in compromise, in finding a happy medium, and there is no way you can compromise when you are staring at the back of someone's head as they are leaving. You don't know me but seem to be making some very generalized assertions on my character based on someone elses hissy fit...
As for gay men, I can see there is another double standard, but hey lets not bother with that one, since it's only YOUR opinions that count around here... and as for something not sitting well with me and boogying out... this Place is making me damn uncomfortable, I haven't once personally attacked anyone, just asked questions, which nobody bothered to answer, about why people choose to practice unsafe oral sex... nobody bothered to give me an opinion on that, I just get told I'm judgemental for challenging thoughts but it's okay for you guys to challenge my thoughts, in addition to putting me down, just because I posted a question...well, I'll be sure not to make that mistake again because advice and opinions are great and much appreciated but I really don't need to come here and read putdowns. Chow |