It appeared their response was aimed more at myself and Liza and MiCpl than at you guys Cyber.
I think the safe sex issue is something that everyone has to think about and consider. I wasn't trying to be negative towards you for choosing to protect yourself, and I really don't think anyone else was either. I think we were just being honest. The people are are talking with here for the most part are people who have been active in the lifestyle for a good bit longer than you have based on your initial post. We simply let you know what we have seen in our experience.
I see nothing wrong with requiring safe sex during all activities, that is your choice, but as you said it may limit your encounters. Just as choosing to only have intercourse with condoms can sometimes limit my own.
Just as every person is different so is every swinger and that is something you have to realize. Just as we can't condem you for choosing to use dental dams for oral sex, neither can you condem us for choosing not to. It's a choice we each must make when entering into this. And yes, some do choose the "no oral" route.
If you haven't yet, I would highly suggest you take the time to read the other messages on this board. I think that doing so will give you a clearer view on these issues rather than jumping to the conclusion that we are all out to get you and getting defensive. You came to this board asking for help, you got honest opinions and advice. It's up to you to take the information you were provided as you will, but do not judge US for providing you that information.
Julie
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