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CuteCouple · 07-30-2001, 11:43 AM

Hmm... fanatical... seems bizare to be called that to me because even before I became involved with my bf I used condoms for oral to avoid exposing myself to disease, which last time I checked, giving oral to a man is a high risk behaviour. I have a tongue ring making this an even more higher risk. My bf, before meeting me, never in his 25 years of living ever had unprotected sex!!

After reading the replies and seeing the negative attitudes reflected on safe sex practices that aren't unresonable I am questioning being in this lifestyle. Oral sex is dangerous and why play with fire if you don't have to is the question I keep asking and nobody bothers to answer... the only reply is, well that's not a common thing, or we don't see that. Do you guys think it's alright for gay men to go around giving blow jobs without protection, just curious? Or is there a double standard here because from the reading I have done, it is always recomended that gay men use condoms for oral.

Yes, communication is the key and that we failed at, sadly and in the future I will spell it out in CAPS. As I mentioned, these negative attitudes towards safe sex have me thinking, I definately won't be attending any swing parties because there is no way I'll have oral without protection and neither will my bf. As for other couples, maybe we should just make a no oral sex rule, that would likely be easier... but then again, I bet you guys will have plenty to say about that one too...

I understand that not everybody is as "fanatical" as us and I respect that. If you guys want to have unprotected oral, that's purely your decision and your risk. You have to live with the consequenses of your actions as do we. After we come home from and adventure, my bf and I want to know that we haven't exposed ourselves openly to disease and I don't think that's wrong even if it's not "common" in the lifestyle.

I've never been comfortable with unprotected oral and I'm not now that I have numerous sex partners. It is sad that our views of safety are likely going to limit us, but hey, at least I will have a clear mind. The guys we've had threesomes with had no problems wearing condoms for oral! So maybe it's just the "swinger" attitude to not use protection for oral, it seems that way from where I'm sitting.

As for playing with a couple with whom I don't know what their condom using status is, you never really know what they are doing when you aren't there, so it's always better to be safe then sorry. Even if they say they use condoms, what does it matter if the woman has men cumming in her mouth?? Tell me, please?? Cum in mouth = exposure to disease. It's pretty educated to say if enough men come in your mouth, someday, somewhere you may get AIDS if you aren't at least trying to be safe and it goes the opposite way too, with all this "fanatical" behaviour, me and my bf could end up with AIDS too because of an accident...

thanks guys, you've given me lots to think about...

07-30-2001, 11:43 AM	#11 (permalink)
CuteCouple Active Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 19 Location: Cornwall, ON, Canada	Hmm... fanatical... seems bizare to be called that to me because even before I became involved with my bf I used condoms for oral to avoid exposing myself to disease, which last time I checked, giving oral to a man is a high risk behaviour. I have a tongue ring making this an even more higher risk. My bf, before meeting me, never in his 25 years of living ever had unprotected sex!! After reading the replies and seeing the negative attitudes reflected on safe sex practices that aren't unresonable I am questioning being in this lifestyle. Oral sex is dangerous and why play with fire if you don't have to is the question I keep asking and nobody bothers to answer... the only reply is, well that's not a common thing, or we don't see that. Do you guys think it's alright for gay men to go around giving blow jobs without protection, just curious? Or is there a double standard here because from the reading I have done, it is always recomended that gay men use condoms for oral. Yes, communication is the key and that we failed at, sadly and in the future I will spell it out in CAPS. As I mentioned, these negative attitudes towards safe sex have me thinking, I definately won't be attending any swing parties because there is no way I'll have oral without protection and neither will my bf. As for other couples, maybe we should just make a no oral sex rule, that would likely be easier... but then again, I bet you guys will have plenty to say about that one too... I understand that not everybody is as "fanatical" as us and I respect that. If you guys want to have unprotected oral, that's purely your decision and your risk. You have to live with the consequenses of your actions as do we. After we come home from and adventure, my bf and I want to know that we haven't exposed ourselves openly to disease and I don't think that's wrong even if it's not "common" in the lifestyle. I've never been comfortable with unprotected oral and I'm not now that I have numerous sex partners. It is sad that our views of safety are likely going to limit us, but hey, at least I will have a clear mind. The guys we've had threesomes with had no problems wearing condoms for oral! So maybe it's just the "swinger" attitude to not use protection for oral, it seems that way from where I'm sitting. As for playing with a couple with whom I don't know what their condom using status is, you never really know what they are doing when you aren't there, so it's always better to be safe then sorry. Even if they say they use condoms, what does it matter if the woman has men cumming in her mouth?? Tell me, please?? Cum in mouth = exposure to disease. It's pretty educated to say if enough men come in your mouth, someday, somewhere you may get AIDS if you aren't at least trying to be safe and it goes the opposite way too, with all this "fanatical" behaviour, me and my bf could end up with AIDS too because of an accident... thanks guys, you've given me lots to think about...