The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Responsibility in revealing potential STD exposure

a_pdx_couple · 06-13-2005, 10:24 AM

We're faced with a dillema. We have several friends who play, we're all part of a Yahoo group. We're recently-involved with the group, and have become friends with 2 very new couples (Couples A and B). Both these couples have played once with a more "veteran" couple (Couple C) within the group, first Couple A and then Couple B, and have had no contact with others whatsoever. The problem: Couple A found that they have contracted genital warts, discovered 6 months after their experience with Couple C. Remember, Couple A have not played with anyone before or since that experience, they're very new to the lifestyle.

They contacted Couple C and told them what happened. Because of their personal history, Couple A is pretty sure that they were infected by Couple C, but cannot guarantee it. However they simply shared with Couple C that an exposure occurred between them, and that Couple C should probably get checked out by a doctor just in case.

I spoke with Couple B on a hunch (Couple A and I discussed this before I did it), since their experience with Couple C followed Couple A's experience. At the very least, Couple A had also been exposed, based on timeline, if the source of infection was Couple A (benefit of the doubt). Sure enough, Couple C never said a word to them about a possible exposure. The male half of Couple A talked with Couple C several times afterwards just to give them opportunity to disclose the exposure, still nothing. Since then Couple B have been to the doctor, and are taking whatever preventative and responsive measures are being offered.

What is Couple C's responsibility to this matter, with regard to notifying people that an exposure occurred? I realize that HPV is terribly terribly common, being simply a strain of warts with possible health consequences if it is not realized. However what is the responsibility of a couple who KNOWS that even if they're not the source of infection, they have become a risk? What is considered acceptable in the Lifestyle?

Couple A is no longer playing, Couple B is waiting for a clean bill of health, but intend to warn others if they elect to play again.

06-13-2005, 10:24 AM	#1 (permalink)
a_pdx_couple Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Portland, Oregon	Responsibility in revealing potential STD exposure We're faced with a dillema. We have several friends who play, we're all part of a Yahoo group. We're recently-involved with the group, and have become friends with 2 very new couples (Couples A and B). Both these couples have played once with a more "veteran" couple (Couple C) within the group, first Couple A and then Couple B, and have had no contact with others whatsoever. The problem: Couple A found that they have contracted genital warts, discovered 6 months after their experience with Couple C. Remember, Couple A have not played with anyone before or since that experience, they're very new to the lifestyle. They contacted Couple C and told them what happened. Because of their personal history, Couple A is pretty sure that they were infected by Couple C, but cannot guarantee it. However they simply shared with Couple C that an exposure occurred between them, and that Couple C should probably get checked out by a doctor just in case. I spoke with Couple B on a hunch (Couple A and I discussed this before I did it), since their experience with Couple C followed Couple A's experience. At the very least, Couple A had also been exposed, based on timeline, if the source of infection was Couple A (benefit of the doubt). Sure enough, Couple C never said a word to them about a possible exposure. The male half of Couple A talked with Couple C several times afterwards just to give them opportunity to disclose the exposure, still nothing. Since then Couple B have been to the doctor, and are taking whatever preventative and responsive measures are being offered. What is Couple C's responsibility to this matter, with regard to notifying people that an exposure occurred? I realize that HPV is terribly terribly common, being simply a strain of warts with possible health consequences if it is not realized. However what is the responsibility of a couple who KNOWS that even if they're not the source of infection, they have become a risk? What is considered acceptable in the Lifestyle? Couple A is no longer playing, Couple B is waiting for a clean bill of health, but intend to warn others if they elect to play again.