John-As for offending odors...LMAO well, she indicated she knew what they were but man was she pissed!!! My jaw was on the floor as I watched her get dressed and storm out of my bedroom! As I mentioned, maybe it's us being uptight but when we decided to get into this lifestyle one of our very few rules is that it must be safe sex and that included oral. My bf is likely a little more "strict" than me as I am the first woman he's ever had unprotected sex with and the second that he had oral with. The research has me convinced that I don't really want to engage in unprotected oral sex because really it is unnecessary. If she didn't want to use the dam and she really wanted oral... her hubby would have been willing to do the job, I'm sure.
We have had a few threesomes and the men never objected to using a condom for oral, I just don't get it! Geez, one of our threesomes was with my bf's brother and we used condoms for sex and oral and we know where he's been!!!! If I'm not gonna have unprotected sex or oral with family I'm not going to with people I really don't know everything about!!
I'm flabergasted!!
CyberWife- We haven't talked to them since last night (that's when this happened) and I'm not sure if we should try phoning or not. I thought of sending them an email apologizing for the situation but really, I don't think we need to apologize. This was our boundary and she knew it beforehand and I'm not going to change the rules as I go along to suit other people. That in the long run will destroy my relationship.
The other couple we played with didn't even want to use condoms for sex for COL!!! With two disasters under our belts we are questioning our wanting to be part of this lifestyle... but we'll likely try again
Angie