This is going to sound shallow, but we are in this, ultimately, for sexual adventure. So - for us - playmates first. We really desire building friendships - and would love to find that couple (or couples) with whom things would be fluid both in and out of the bedroom...
We wanted "friends first", when we started, and we invested about six months into a couple right off the bat... Before we did anything... Then we did "it"... And it killed the friendship...
The way we see it, if we have a good experience, that's why we are here. If we develop friendships, that is awesome! But sex can be easy to arange - friendship is tougher to plan.
We have made friends, and the one's we have are awesome! The best part is, the sex is less of an issue as we share about family, life, trials and joys. The sexual energy always seems to be there, simmering, which makes the play that much more fun, I think. Friendships are ideal, but they are pretty tough to come by.
So - in the meantime - I'll just placate myself with meaningless intercourse
Spoomonkey