[Alura]

I agree that you and your wife must get on the same page of all this. There is no sense developing problems in your marriage for a little pleasure.

Now, as a way of leveling the field, and testing what the other guy has in mind, you might consider agreeing to your wife's visit to their house for a threesome, IF his wife comes to your house for the same thing. He would have to stay home and wonder what is going on, just like he thinks you should.

My guess is that he'll shout a resounding, "NO!" If not, well, it would be a fair arrangement, no? (You should NOT suggest this if you couldn't carry through, by the way.)

Perhaps several talks with your wife are needed.

Mr. Alura