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Originally Posted by WildMiCouple We would have certainly done the same thing as you in ending the relationship. We would never burden our friends with our personal problems....why would we put up with it from them? If it was vanilla friends dragging us down with too much of their problems, we'd be seeing alot less of them, if at all. |
Indys... As others have mentioned, sorry for the loss you are feeling.
As I think about this topic... Brett seemed to sum it up best for me. If I run into a challenging situation, I compare and contrast what I'll put up with, for lack of a better term, in swinging vs. vanilla life.
I don't think laying down or discussing a bunch of "emotional boundaries" is necessary. Heck, the people those are usually aimed at often think they're immune or that your rules don't apply to them. Either you'll accept your friends or potential friends the way they are, or you won't. And if you don't, then end the relationship. Sounds curt and cold, but isn't that the way friendships are in the vanilla world? Sometimes, you just fall away from people you were once close to, other times you have to end it in some more official way. Hate to say it, but... "That's life."