The Swingers Board - View Single Post - When swingers become friends and things go downhill

WildMiCouple · 06-06-2005, 05:30 PM

This is quite an intriguing topic, Mrs. Indy. Not necessarily one you even think about until the dynamics of it surface.

We're still in the early stages......we've played quite a few times, but haven't developed the friendships past playmates yet. When we first ventured into the lifestyle, I was of the thought that finding couples with similar interests and seeking long term "friends with benefits" was the way to go. Tammy, on the other hand, thought that just keeping it playmates and not bringing them into our everyday life was the way to go. She didn't want the baggage and drama. Seeing your situation kinda supports her thinking.....who needs that crap :rollseyes

We would have certainly done the same thing as you in ending the relationship. We would never burden our friends with our personal problems....why would we put up with it from them? If it was vanilla friends dragging us down with too much of their problems, we'd be seeing alot less of them, if at all.

Tammy and I are both opinionated type A personalities. But, like others, we don't talk about politics, religion, and money with but a very few of our friends. I'd bet all but one friend wouldn't know what religion or political persuasion we follow

Besides, you're never gonna change anyone's mind about either anyway

Brett (and Tammy)

06-06-2005, 05:30 PM	#14 (permalink)
WildMiCouple Never up.....never in Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 732 Location: se Michigan and se Florida Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:wildmicouple	Re: When good swinging goes bad This is quite an intriguing topic, Mrs. Indy. Not necessarily one you even think about until the dynamics of it surface. We're still in the early stages......we've played quite a few times, but haven't developed the friendships past playmates yet. When we first ventured into the lifestyle, I was of the thought that finding couples with similar interests and seeking long term "friends with benefits" was the way to go. Tammy, on the other hand, thought that just keeping it playmates and not bringing them into our everyday life was the way to go. She didn't want the baggage and drama. Seeing your situation kinda supports her thinking.....who needs that crap :rollseyes We would have certainly done the same thing as you in ending the relationship. We would never burden our friends with our personal problems....why would we put up with it from them? If it was vanilla friends dragging us down with too much of their problems, we'd be seeing alot less of them, if at all. Tammy and I are both opinionated type A personalities. But, like others, we don't talk about politics, religion, and money with but a very few of our friends. I'd bet all but one friend wouldn't know what religion or political persuasion we follow Besides, you're never gonna change anyone's mind about either anyway Brett (and Tammy)