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Originally Posted by biblonde HMMMM...Co workers and sex....a big NO NO first off. And it seems a little one sided here. He is bringing in his wife but you are told no?? You do have the right to tell her No...we beleive that either of us can change our minds at any time and the other respects that. I would never hurt my hubby by telling him that sorry it will be both of them now but you arent invited. That doesnt seem fair at all what she is asking of you. You as a couple comes first and if you allow this to happen and you arent totally for it to start with I would be afraid that you would resent her in the future or it would at least cause some hard feelings. I would really think twice before I would allow this to happen. The other hubby changed the rules when he brought his wife into the mix of stuff...so only fair if you want to say no they really shouldnt have a problem with it. |
Very well said biblonde, we must agree with you. There's a lot of potential for trouble with this situation. If your wife has her heart set on doing something like this, then it would be best to find a couple in which you can you can all be involved and there's no danger of workplace drama. Hubby and I have equal veto power at any time and if we were ever in a situation where the other husband said my husband could not be there, then that would be the end of dealing with them, pure and simple. If he's worried about performance issues, there are ways to deal with that but leaving you out of the mix is not the way to do it. I wouldn't want my husband involved with a couple where I was not welcome either. Just because you said yes to a particular scenario doesn't mean when things change that the answer cannot change as well.
If you are uncomfortable with any aspect of this for any reason, then please sit down with your wife and tell her why. Have her read this thread if possible. Ask her what it is she has her heart set on so firmly- this kind of scenario, this particular person, just swinging in general or what? It sounds like things really need to be put on hold with this couple, maybe permanently, until the two of you can have some satisfactory conversations about what you're both thinking and feeling. Good luck to you and please come back and let us know how things are going!
M.