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biblonde · 06-06-2005, 04:56 PM

HMMMM...Co workers and sex....a big NO NO first off. And it seems a little one sided here. He is bringing in his wife but you are told no?? You do have the right to tell her No...we beleive that either of us can change our minds at any time and the other respects that. I would never hurt my hubby by telling him that sorry it will be both of them now but you arent invited. That doesnt seem fair at all what she is asking of you. You as a couple comes first and if you allow this to happen and you arent totally for it to start with I would be afraid that you would resent her in the future or it would at least cause some hard feelings. I would really think twice before I would allow this to happen. The other hubby changed the rules when he brought his wife into the mix of stuff...so only fair if you want to say no they really shouldnt have a problem with it.

One other thing, have you talked to your wife about your feelings on this? If not you may sit down with her and let her know that you arent sure just how comfy you are with this situation. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out!!

06-06-2005, 04:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
biblonde Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,020 Location: sacramento Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curious1918	Re: unsure emotions HMMMM...Co workers and sex....a big NO NO first off. And it seems a little one sided here. He is bringing in his wife but you are told no?? You do have the right to tell her No...we beleive that either of us can change our minds at any time and the other respects that. I would never hurt my hubby by telling him that sorry it will be both of them now but you arent invited. That doesnt seem fair at all what she is asking of you. You as a couple comes first and if you allow this to happen and you arent totally for it to start with I would be afraid that you would resent her in the future or it would at least cause some hard feelings. I would really think twice before I would allow this to happen. The other hubby changed the rules when he brought his wife into the mix of stuff...so only fair if you want to say no they really shouldnt have a problem with it. One other thing, have you talked to your wife about your feelings on this? If not you may sit down with her and let her know that you arent sure just how comfy you are with this situation. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out!!