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Originally Posted by tribbles She cannot be held responsible for her husband allowing someone to molest her while she is incapacitated
Without this I might have stopped cuz I do agree we aren't going to view this situation eye to eye and the best we can do is agree to disagree. But it sounds like you are mixing responsibility for alcohol abuse with responsibility for what her husband allowed. Two different wrongs, IMO, but both wrong. Not even equal in wrongness, what he allowed I would rate higher on the wrongness scale. I do think both are wrongs that can be learned from and the relationship can survive. And that is purely our opinion.
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I agree with what you are trying to say, and agree that they both need to work on their relationship (ha bet you didn't see that one coming
). I guess what gets me upset is when people try to place the blame on a victom because he or she had too much to drink. Yes they do have a responsiblity to themselves to try not to get that incapacitated, but we all know that from time to time for what ever reason it can happen. I just think (and I am not so pollyanna in my views to think this is reality in any way shape or from) a person should be safe enough to know that if they are going to pass out, that the people they love, call friends or work with can be trusted to find them a place to recouperate with out fear of rape or molestation.
Yes she made a mistake. Yes hubby made a mistake and yes the worst offender in my book is the boss for being such a sleezebag. my point is that this kind of activity is not acceptable under any circumstances. I am not saying she should divorce the guy. I am saying he needs to own up to what happened, take his lumps, and then maybe they will take steps to see what can be done to repair the damage (depending obviouly on where her line is, he definately crossed my, but obviously each one of us has a different tollerance level).
So it's okay that we have a difference of opinon. I don't think the world has to agree with everything I say.