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She cannot be held responsible for her husband allowing someone to molest her while she is incapacitated
Without this I might have stopped cuz I do agree we aren't going to view this situation eye to eye and the best we can do is agree to disagree. But it sounds like you are mixing responsibility for alcohol abuse with responsibility for what her husband allowed. Two different wrongs, IMO, but both wrong. Not even equal in wrongness, what he allowed I would rate higher on the wrongness scale. I do think both are wrongs that can be learned from and the relationship can survive. And that is purely our opinion.

D and S