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Originally Posted by intuition897 Mr. and I have had issues of our own in our relationship...nothing quite like this, but the bottom line is there were times that we weren't there for each other when it counted the most. We've worked past that and really grown from it. We've sworn to each other than we would do everything in our power to never allow one another to be hurt again. So keeping in mind we have a history of trust issues, yeah!! this would be huge deal! |
So you have been there, done that in your own form and stayed together and grown from it. And NOW if something happened it would be awful. But for this couple, what if this is not an old, fixed issue, revisited...but more like the past issues you have already dealt with? New to them?
I took the view it was NEW for them, not an old hurt opened again. Big difference, IMO.
I think they need to have the chance to work it out (not go to jail, as biblonde suggests) and grow from it as others have and have built more trust from experiences.
I wouldn't be married for 25yrs if I had tossed him out over mistakes made when he was imparied (what I did instead was put him in rehab
worked too).
S and D