[BiDrywallChick]

One of the key things that I tell people who are still chrcking things out is to remeber this, Never ever let anyone force you into doing something that you are not comfortable with. That would include your husband as well. I have seen many times where one or the other partner will just do it to get it over with and make the other person shut up and quit bugging them about it. That is very very unwise. Like already mentioned, you two need to sit down and talk about this, without alot of emotional drama, and see first what exactly each one of you is looking for. Also, you need to see what you both are hoping to gain from revising the sexual aspect of the relationship. Before you two do anything remotely like swinging, open marriage what have you.. you both need to be secure and confident in your own relationship with each other. Otherwise, swinging can end up being the catalyst that breaks it all down. Remember, swinging isnt for everyone. Sometimes the anticipation and excitement is better than the actual act!