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Undecided · 06-03-2005, 02:21 PM

I mean going on dates with singles and whatever comes afterward. We both married very young and didnt really get a chance to experince other people b4 we got married. We both lost our virginity to each other. He is more curiosu and anxious to experince other singles than I am. I still have my reservations. He is not agaisnt couples but he is a little self consious "preforming" in front of others. He'd rather be alone with someone else. He is wanting to go full speed ahead. You know thinking with only one head (im sure you can guess which one :P ) I feel like he is putting alot of pressure on me to hurry up and experince another man. More as an individual than a couple.

I dont want to make a mistake and regret it and I've told him that'd id rather take my time and get comfortable with it than hurry up and do something regret it and not want to do it again. but he doesnt seem to understand where im coming from.

Has anyone else/spouse wanted to experince singles in a date type enviroment?

Undecided

06-03-2005, 02:21 PM	#3 (permalink)
Undecided Registered Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 5 Location: VA	Re: Undecided please help I mean going on dates with singles and whatever comes afterward. We both married very young and didnt really get a chance to experince other people b4 we got married. We both lost our virginity to each other. He is more curiosu and anxious to experince other singles than I am. I still have my reservations. He is not agaisnt couples but he is a little self consious "preforming" in front of others. He'd rather be alone with someone else. He is wanting to go full speed ahead. You know thinking with only one head (im sure you can guess which one :P ) I feel like he is putting alot of pressure on me to hurry up and experince another man. More as an individual than a couple. I dont want to make a mistake and regret it and I've told him that'd id rather take my time and get comfortable with it than hurry up and do something regret it and not want to do it again. but he doesnt seem to understand where im coming from. Has anyone else/spouse wanted to experince singles in a date type enviroment? Undecided