The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Undecided about swinging, he is ready but wanting different things

lovefest04 · 06-03-2005, 02:09 PM

Dear Undecided,

makig the decision to swing and then actually swinging takes time. For most of us, it is a real shift in the way we think about our relationships and sex. What does are marriage mean, what were our vows all about. Lots of stuff to think about and work through.

Taking it slow is almost the mantra for most of the great people on this site. Everyone should feel comfortable.

Additionally, I have to question the idea of swinging with singles one on one. Do you mean that you would go on a date with someone without your husband and vise-a-versa? Or do you mean you would swing with singles as in MFM and FMF?

We swing as a couple, it the sharing that is soooo much fun. I could see a time when we might play alone, acting out a fantasy,or something, but generally that's not what swinging is for us.

You are entitled to move as slow as you like and for heavens sake don't get pushed into anything before you're ready. That will only lead to hurt feeling and tough times for you and your husband.

Good luck!

06-03-2005, 02:09 PM	#2 (permalink)
lovefest04 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 183 Location: Northern California	Re: Undecided please help Dear Undecided, makig the decision to swing and then actually swinging takes time. For most of us, it is a real shift in the way we think about our relationships and sex. What does are marriage mean, what were our vows all about. Lots of stuff to think about and work through. Taking it slow is almost the mantra for most of the great people on this site. Everyone should feel comfortable. Additionally, I have to question the idea of swinging with singles one on one. Do you mean that you would go on a date with someone without your husband and vise-a-versa? Or do you mean you would swing with singles as in MFM and FMF? We swing as a couple, it the sharing that is soooo much fun. I could see a time when we might play alone, acting out a fantasy,or something, but generally that's not what swinging is for us. You are entitled to move as slow as you like and for heavens sake don't get pushed into anything before you're ready. That will only lead to hurt feeling and tough times for you and your husband. Good luck!