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Originally Posted by twoplayful2 This may sound very UN-politically correct but I think that not only most men wouldn't have even close to that reaction, but a lot of women wouldn't take it that way either. I think the letdown will be in the area of trust and that he's taken so long to tell her already. She might very well be pissed, but I don't think it's necessarily true that she's going to feel as if she was raped. Depends on the person, people react differently and this isn't a violation that is so far out there that it's a sure thing she will feel that way. My opinion.
Regardless, I think the guy needs to fess up on it and take his lumps, whatever they may be. IMHO marriages are continuouly either getting stronger or weaker, and hiding things like this definitely isn't making anything stronger. Deal with it and in time things will improve or perhaps they will go the other way, but it still needs to be dealt with or things already are going the other way. |
Ok, I guess I should've added that if it were
me being told that my fat, ugly old boss got to fondle and suck on my breasts while I lay there unconscious and helpless while my husband not only stood by, but actually
enabled the arsehole to do so, that would be my reaction exactly. Maybe others would be a little more forgiving, but I would feel absolutely used, disrespected, violated, embarrassed, ashamed...and above all very, very hurt and abandonned.
However, I do agree with your opinion that marriages are constantly changing for the better or the worse. Yes, not telling her is counter-productive.