 Re: What should I say?
This may sound very UN-politically correct but I think that not only most men wouldn't have even close to that reaction, but a lot of women wouldn't take it that way either. I think the letdown will be in the area of trust and that he's taken so long to tell her already. She might very well be pissed, but I don't think it's necessarily true that she's going to feel as if she was raped. Depends on the person, people react differently and this isn't a violation that is so far out there that it's a sure thing she will feel that way. My opinion.
Regardless, I think the guy needs to fess up on it and take his lumps, whatever they may be. IMHO marriages are continuouly either getting stronger or weaker, and hiding things like this definitely isn't making anything stronger. Deal with it and in time things will improve or perhaps they will go the other way, but it still needs to be dealt with or things already are going the other way. |