mmmm...I read this thread last nite and then got to thinking...
(dangerous for me..LOL)
If the hubby was upset with his wife for getting so wasted, but not in touch with his feelings, might this be an unconscious move to get even? I know years ago D and I had issues like that and if he had gotten wasted, after we agreed not to...I might have allowed something like this in my anger...
Or maybe the hubby who was also under the influence, had lowered control and the boss asking was such a turn on for him that he didn't control his behavior as well as we would have liked him too? As well as even he would have wanted to, especially with hindsight? And if hubby had not been drinking too then this wouldn't have happened. Maybe the hubby needs to explore if the helpless damsel image was a turn on.
In the long run, this episode can be something that helps everyone grow. I don't see how anyone was hurt in an irreparable way. (This from someone who was felt up at age 5 by some dude in a white coat while waiting for my tonsils to be removed. I was 5-didn't tell anyone since it just didn't seem important at the time. It didn't physically hurt, I just wrote the guy off as an idiot examing the wrong kid. I never did find irreparable harm in that experience for me-there doesn't need to be any here either. Just grow from it).