I dunno Curious. I still have a hard time cutting a guy slack when he allowed a man, who his wife made it clear previosly that she was not interested in, molest her.
Your husband is a man you are supposed to be able to trust, especially when you are not able to take care of yourself. No means No...I think both the husband and the boss need to remember that. If the wife had done the same thing I would have said the same thing to her....you don't do crap like that to the people you love.
I know I have done stupid crap when I was younger and had too much to drink, but never once can I say anything I did harmed someone.
There is no excuse for that kind of action, no matter if it was the husband or the wife.
( Disclaimer: Of course this is not a flame....I like you too much for that, this is just an open debate
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