Quote:
|
Originally Posted by jr555666 You are right i failed her. I don't think he is a swinger and as far as i know he has no idea we have. he's just a horny selfish guy who saw an opening and went for it. he had hit on her several times before and she wanted no part. Wendy is a very attractive, fit gal who is more than young enough to be his daughter, not that age really matters. but he did look to me for an ok and i gave it to him. i'm trying to figure out why i did. i know it was wrong on every level. and i regret it. but in that moment i got lost in, i was almost glad this fat old guy got to see her chest. i know, that is awful! what is scary is thinking about if i would have let it go farther ... but yes, i need to tell her and before tomorrow when she goes to work. |
Disclaimer: I am not one of the nice people on the board
You really fucked up dude, on several points.
1) Although your wife should have been in control of her actions, she was not in a position to give consent or even decide to say yes or no.. stop or go. You as her husband, no matter the type of relationship should have stood up for your wife and said no.
2) You
KNEW she didn't want anything to do with him in that way, yet you allowed it to happen. In many states, you allowed her to be raped, sexually assualted ect. What on earth where you thinking/ Perhaps you weren't and that is the problem
3) you put her career in jepardy. No longer is she going to be reviewed as an employee by her boss, she is going to be rated as a sex object. That is not a good thing. No matter what she does, he will always look at her as the drunk woman he got a cheap feel off of because her husband was too much of a puss to say no.
4) you aren't even truely sorry. You are not really ashamed of what you did, just more ashamed that you are going to get caught because she will find out. Someone is going to tell her, if not her boss, then someone he told or through the office rumor mill. You have degraded her beyond what most people can repair. All I get from you is that you treated her like your property. You were showing off to the boss " Look what is mine. You can't have it. I own it. I can do with this piece of flesh what I want. You can touch her but I say what goes. she has no say. I own her". You showed her no respect, no love and bottom line, you put her in harms way. No because her boss is going to hurt her, but you have wounded her emotionally.
I am a firm believer that problems in a marriage can be worked out if both parties are willing. however, I will tell you this, be glad that you dont live in this house. You best tell her before she finds out from someone else. You are going to be in a living hell for awhile, if she keeps ya. Trust is a hard thing to build back up. You best have good knee pads for the groveling you are going to do. Kiss the ground she walks on if she doesnt put your ass out on the curb.