Thanks everyone
It's great to hear that people are patient as a whole and exhibit the behavior as such.
I really do understand that people have a lack of time due to children and life. I think that I will become more comfortable with the time frame once I've had more experiences. The whole "hopping into bed with someone who I don't know" phenomena unsettles me at times and others it doesn't. It all depends on the chemistry of the person. Even if I started dating now in my life, I still wouldn't be a bed hopper. It's not who I am. When people meet us (my husband and I) and we're not all over them, they wonder. We are both reserved people. I am very reserved sexually in the sense that it takes me more time to trust a guy that he's going to be a good fit sexually. I can become adaptable any situation. So I have been willing to hop into bed on the second date to see how it feels, even if I am not crazy about the guy. My husband told me that these are the expectations of couples and I reacted to his wise words unkindly. I also have the attitude that even if I am a little unsettled about certain things, I work with my emotions. I am not about to run into a cave and "figure myself out". I want to go for it and experience as much as I can, good, bad and indifferent.