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Originally Posted by taomaster ....
So it may not be only the love=sex=love confusion that Western culture is suffering from but a confusion as to whether sex is actually 'OK' or not. If you feel bad about your sexuality it's hard to relax and have an open mind about it.
There's nothing wrong with feeling a bit of love while having sex, is there? Maybe the real issue is the neediness, insecurity and resulting poor communication that is based on a fundamentally flawed view of sexuality as something that is 'bad' and needs to be kept 'private' and 'hidden'.
Mr. T |
I think you're right, taomaster, but I'd say 'American' not 'Western' culture. Europeans don't seem to have as many hangups about sex as do Americans. I seem to recall quite a bit of apoplexy about a nipple on TV, something that would have passed (and daily does) without comment in Europe.
It's just a product of our puritanical roots and is unlikely to change in the near future. The more of us that come out to our friends, however, the more likely it is that we'll eventually be tolerated by the mainstream. Never loved, of course, but possibly accepted.
-B