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Originally Posted by intuition897 Wow, Mr. Spoomonkey just hit on a lot of the same points that I believe very strongly. Yes, Western culture is deeply ingrained with the propaganda that love=sex=love. |
You might find this quote interesting:
"The Christian influence on Western sexuality has been to keep us focused on the business of biology and alienate sex from pleasure and love. For the Christian, sex is for procreation; for the [ancient] Chinese ejaculation is for procreation, but sex is for pleasure, therapy and spiritual development. All pleasures of the flesh are deemed sinful in the Christian view, and sex as an expression of love ranks a poor third behind love of God and brotherly love. For the majority of the [ancient] Chinese, the sacred resides within nature, and sexuality as a part of nature belongs to the fundamental design of the universe. Nature is not only sacred but the source of 'medicine'; one becomes holy by becoming healthy. Sex, being a natural function, also is seen as a source of bioenergetic medicine."
- Douglas Wile, The Chinese Sexual Yoga Classics
So it may not be only the love=sex=love confusion that Western culture is suffering from but a confusion as to whether sex is actually 'OK' or not. If you feel bad about your sexuality it's hard to relax and have an open mind about it.
There's nothing wrong with feeling a bit of love while having sex, is there? Maybe the real issue is the neediness, insecurity and resulting poor communication that is based on a fundamentally flawed view of sexuality as something that is 'bad' and needs to be kept 'private' and 'hidden'.
Mr. T