[LikeMinds321]

Hi Pixey -

Welcome

Thanks for posting. I hope you will register so that you can come back and post again.

From what I have gathered in my search for swingers, most are not going to be interested in going over two dates before deciding to play. By then couples usually know if everyone clicks.

We have played with two couples. Both times we played on the first date. But prior to this we had communicated enough through e-mail to learn a lot about each other and to get the sexual heat going. We also spoke to them on the phone before meeting. By the time we met and spent a few hours with them we were ready to play. I think this is pretty standard for swingers.

Most swingers - especially those with children at home - don't have a lot of free time to date. Swingers go out to have sexual fun. For you the sexy flirting and developing a friendship sounds like a requirement before sex. And this is okay. Just make sure the people you contact know this.

You will have your best chance of finding people like yourself if they state in their profiles that they wish to develop a lasting friendship with a couple, they emphasize their desire for sharing activities outside the bedroom as well as inside, say they are in no rush to jump into bed, and state they are not pushy.

My suggestion: Be selective when choosing couples. Contact only people that state in their profiles those things I mentioned above. In turn, you should let others know the pace you prefer, this will avoid frustrations and keep everyone happier.

You should approach swinging in the way you are comfortable. Don't feel you have to play sooner than you want, even if others typically do.

LM