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Old 05-29-2005, 12:44 PM   #6 (permalink)
Spoomonkey
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Originally Posted by intuition897
It's true. It makes the vanilla world a little more lonely sometimes. It's difficult to chime in on a girls night out when they all start carrying on about who's jealous of whom...at least not without giving us away. Frankly, I'd LOVE the opportunity to just 'out' us and be done with it. Let them gasp. Let their jaws drop. Let their delicate sensibilities be offended. Whatever. Unfortunately, as a parent and a working mom, I don't have the luxury of this kind of satisfaction. I dislike needing to keep things under cover. After thinking about it, I've decided that no, I don't get off on the naughty secrecy aspect. I'd rather just be naughty way out in the open. Our take on marriage doesn't meld well with most vanilla's points of view.
I LOVE this post! It is exactly where we are right now, I think. We would love to just look at the folks we work with and say "yeah, that old rumor? It's true..." But - you just can't.

But the vanilla girl that we told this week said something that I'll never forget. She said, "you guys are the only couple I know that gets along as well as you do."

A lot of that has to do with our openness with each other and the honesty and intimacy that swinging demands. We know other couples like us - but they are all here. And like you said, that can make life a little lonely sometimes.

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