 Re: They confronted us!!
I think the "vanilla" world (and forgive me for using the term) really has a tough time seperating sex and love. I know that is cliche, but it is the truth.
If you don't mind me bringing out something from my "minister" background - it is the idea of "one flesh". Like it or not, a Christian ethos is deeply ingrained in American thought. The idea of the "two becoming one" is so limited in our thought.
As a youth pastor, once a year I was required to do an event called "True Love Waits". I really struggled with it because it basically left the kids with the thought that marriage=sex. I think those of us who are married - even if we are the few fortunate souls with incredible sex lives - would agree that marriage is so much more and the reality of "one flesh" is so much deeper than two people connecting at the groin.
I feel for people who are buffaloed by this. Not because I think that all people should be swingers - god forbid! But mostly because they have such a limited, tightly defined concept of marriage and love.
We do what we do because we can; we have this odd strength of relationship that allows us to not get wrapped and warped by jealousy, insecurity and suspicion.
It's not for everyone - but I sure wish more people would be as confident in their relationship as so many of us here are...
Spoomonkey
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