I would never forgive myself and I would never be able to go back and do it over again.
Lilo,
Since the risk is only less, but not 0% even with a condom, I think it's important to plan ahead how to cope with the possibility of catching something. If I can't forgive myself when thinking it could happen, it would be worse if it does.
The risk is real and we have agreed to take the risk and forgive and cope if it occurs. Otherwise the fallout in our relationship would be too costly and we should stop swinging now, IMHO.
BTW, we do insist on condoms, but as other threads say, HSV and HPV aren't totally stopped by one.
D is one of 5 children, 3 of them were concieved thru condoms. I guess he is suppose to be here!
