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Originally Posted by michelle101 Hi everyone
My husband and I have never tried swinging, but we are considering it. We were thinking of going to a strip club together so he could get a lap dance and I could watch. We figure if I am ok watching that ( actually I think I would like it alot ) that we may become more comfortable with the idea of swinging. |
Opps.... Honestly, 1 doesn't really have to do with other. Strip club could lead to feeling horny or whatever. Really isn't going to allow you the feeling that seeing your "SO" with another person will though. As you stated, "you knew she wasn't going to have really have sex with your husband". So not even a twinge of jealousy was felt, there was no concerns. But what if they were having sex?..... Step back, relax, close your eyes and imagine that for a second....imagine him going down on her or moaning in ecstacy while he's inside of her.... and vice versa, have your "SO" read and do this also...feel that in the pits of your stomach or in your heart? If so SLOW DOWN. It's natural and its to be expected especially for "newbie's" as well as veterens, now talk to each other and see if your truely "OK" or not? If so.. continue on.
Remember key things here...COMMUNICATION, HONESTY, TRUST, COMMUNICATION, and MORE COMMUNICATION really can't stress this enough!
There is no problem in stepping out and re-evaluating your situations and re-thinking thoughts on "swinging", you may just like the idea of "it" but find you end up resenting what has been done later on.... COMMUNICATE. Entering into this "lifestyle" is drastic on both parties mentally, physically, and emotionally, and is not something to do light hearted just based on the thought of it. Remember once the "deed" is done, it's done! Forever in your hearts and minds.
My wife and I started "soft" with touching, feeling, oral, some FF, MFMF same room... Now we've reached a level of say "RND" (see above) where we no longer have rules and boundries persay and just go with what feels good for us and the other. Afterall that is why most people enter the "lifestyle" is for pleasure. There is none if your afraid to enjoy it or worried "what if?" or "can I?" and so forth.
I hope this helps its just MO and please look around, talk to others, ask questions, if you haven't take a look at FAQ"S and getting started as they are full of info for people such as yourselves or those who are re-evaluating to thier choice.... We have no regrets on our decisson to continue as we both truely love it, however for those that have "crashed and burned" I'd almost bet you they wished they went slower and thought it out before hand.
Keep in mind as I think you saw and have learned a "Strip Club exp. isn't (although it could be)
a swinging exp." They truly are as different as night and day. Good Luck and Enjoy whatever you decide to do!! Feel free to ask or comment anytime just hope it helps in some manner.
-C