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CuteCouple · 07-31-2001, 04:40 PM

ooops too late but anyway...

I always say that honesty is the best policy and there is no way that you can avoid the inevitable. Go out for the dinner, have fun, and see what happens. Don't lead the couple on. Find out what they are interested in and tell them what's on your mind. If what they want doesn't go with your desires you're gonna have to fess up. Whether or not you are just new to the club an honest, sincere "sorry, we're not interested" will be better than an avoidant brush off or a lengthy lead on.

I know that being honest, especially when attraction is concerned, is very difficult but if you are going to keep attending the club you need to tell the truth.

As the others mentioned, I don't think it would be wise to attempt to be with only the woman as this may create bad blood and hurt feelings. Nobody needs that.

I'm sure there are many other couples out there that you both can agree on so that the experience is pleasurefull for everyone. In addition, don't give out your number unless you are certain that you are both attracted to the other couple or that you have discussed alternative arangements. This way, you can avoid a similar future situation.

Practice makes perfect

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07-31-2001, 04:40 PM	#8 (permalink)
CuteCouple Active Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 19 Location: Cornwall, ON, Canada	ooops too late but anyway... I always say that honesty is the best policy and there is no way that you can avoid the inevitable. Go out for the dinner, have fun, and see what happens. Don't lead the couple on. Find out what they are interested in and tell them what's on your mind. If what they want doesn't go with your desires you're gonna have to fess up. Whether or not you are just new to the club an honest, sincere "sorry, we're not interested" will be better than an avoidant brush off or a lengthy lead on. I know that being honest, especially when attraction is concerned, is very difficult but if you are going to keep attending the club you need to tell the truth. As the others mentioned, I don't think it would be wise to attempt to be with only the woman as this may create bad blood and hurt feelings. Nobody needs that. I'm sure there are many other couples out there that you both can agree on so that the experience is pleasurefull for everyone. In addition, don't give out your number unless you are certain that you are both attracted to the other couple or that you have discussed alternative arangements. This way, you can avoid a similar future situation. Practice makes perfect [This message has been edited by CuteCouple (edited 07-31-2001).]