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CoupleinCanada · 07-31-2001, 12:06 AM

Hello there everyone!

We are a couple in Canada who is new to the swinging scene. We've been to a few parties at off-premises clubs and enjoyed ourselves immensely. We've found a club here that we really like, and have started to make some friendships with some really nice couples there.

At a recent party we were at, we were "hit on" by another couple. We socialized, shared a few dances, and chatted for a while, and they asked us out to dinner sometime next week. We exchanged phone numbers, and they called us a few days ago to set up a time to meet. So far, so good! :-)

Here's the problem: we are attracted to the woman and would like to be with her, but we aren't attracted to the man. Being new to the club, we don't want to offend anyone by telling them we aren't interested. We also don't want to go ahead with them as a couple as anything more than friends.

What is the etiquette for a situation like this? Any advice you would be willing to share with us will be most appreciated.

Cheers,

(Newbie) Couple in Canada

07-31-2001, 12:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
CoupleinCanada Registered Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 3 Location: Ontario, Canada	Interested in Her but not Him - What to do??? Hello there everyone! We are a couple in Canada who is new to the swinging scene. We've been to a few parties at off-premises clubs and enjoyed ourselves immensely. We've found a club here that we really like, and have started to make some friendships with some really nice couples there. At a recent party we were at, we were "hit on" by another couple. We socialized, shared a few dances, and chatted for a while, and they asked us out to dinner sometime next week. We exchanged phone numbers, and they called us a few days ago to set up a time to meet. So far, so good! :-) Here's the problem: we are attracted to the woman and would like to be with her, but we aren't attracted to the man. Being new to the club, we don't want to offend anyone by telling them we aren't interested. We also don't want to go ahead with them as a couple as anything more than friends. What is the etiquette for a situation like this? Any advice you would be willing to share with us will be most appreciated. Cheers, (Newbie) Couple in Canada