The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Emotions - the first time you saw your partner with someone else?

lovefest04 · 05-20-2005, 03:24 PM

Hi Jenn,

I can only speak for myself (male half) so here it is.

The first time was very erotic and I experienced a lot of negative emotions. Watching and participating in her blossoming as a sexual being was amazing. She was in control, but not in control, she was sexy and playful in a way I hadn't seen, she was flirtatious and much like a cat in her movements. She is an amazing woman.

That said i was nervous and scared. I had a lot of shit that started going on in my head. Why would she want to be with another man, why did she smile like that etc etc. I definitly had to process the experience over a few days to get a handle on my feelings. Bottom line is that, for me, a lot of my feeling were about me. Insecurity, feeling left out (i wasn't), feeling vunerable.

Her consistent love and attention after the first, her willingness to be open to my concerns and my insecurities without just brushing them aside helped a lot. As i said shes and amazing woman.

Fast forward to today. We've had at least 8 encounters over the past 14 months, some with couples and some with single men. It's been wonderful and we feel closer than ever. Swinging has added a new dimension to our relationship without changing what we already had.

It works for us because we communicate and we both know that nothing can come between the two of us, ever. We are a team and no matter what happens late some Friday night we will always be a team.

Hope this helps.

05-20-2005, 03:24 PM	#5 (permalink)
lovefest04 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 143 Location: Northern California	Re: Emotions to swinging......what were yours? Hi Jenn, I can only speak for myself (male half) so here it is. The first time was very erotic and I experienced a lot of negative emotions. Watching and participating in her blossoming as a sexual being was amazing. She was in control, but not in control, she was sexy and playful in a way I hadn't seen, she was flirtatious and much like a cat in her movements. She is an amazing woman. That said i was nervous and scared. I had a lot of shit that started going on in my head. Why would she want to be with another man, why did she smile like that etc etc. I definitly had to process the experience over a few days to get a handle on my feelings. Bottom line is that, for me, a lot of my feeling were about me. Insecurity, feeling left out (i wasn't), feeling vunerable. Her consistent love and attention after the first, her willingness to be open to my concerns and my insecurities without just brushing them aside helped a lot. As i said shes and amazing woman. Fast forward to today. We've had at least 8 encounters over the past 14 months, some with couples and some with single men. It's been wonderful and we feel closer than ever. Swinging has added a new dimension to our relationship without changing what we already had. It works for us because we communicate and we both know that nothing can come between the two of us, ever. We are a team and no matter what happens late some Friday night we will always be a team. Hope this helps.